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November 11, 2015 By
My son-in-law posted a link to an article about a country singer, Joey Feek who has Stage 4 cervical cancer. They found it shortly after she had given birth to a beautiful baby girl a year ago. She had a hysterectomy, and doctors thought it was gone. Unfortunately, this past spring, the cancer had spread and was found in her colon. Although hopeful she could fight it, the cancer was too far gone. She has now stopped treatment. I had never heard of her, but found myself researching her music and her life. I found not only her music videos, but also her husband’s blog. It read like a beautiful love story about his beautiful wife and his family, and I encourage you to read it. Their courage and strong faith inspired me to share this story with all of you.
Back in 2012, the couple recorded this song that now has heavy emotional meaning. “When I’m Gone” features Joey singing about what life will be like once she has passed away. “
Prayers are with the Feek family today…
November 9, 2015 By
Five months have passed since I left my part-time position (well, I didn’t ‘leave’ it, it ended….). I’ve been able to get our bills paid, continue to pay for college and put food on the table on my husband’s income. It’s been a little tight, and at times we’ve had to pull from savings, but all in all it’s been doable.
I’ve also been able to get our home organized, and spend some much needed time just resting. However, recently I’ve been getting a bit restless. There’s only so much cleaning, cooking and budgeting one can do. With the kids in college, my husband at work all day and my older two married and on their own, being home alone day in and day out was getting boring.
After watching this video and really starting to think about it, I realized I missed my part-time job. It gave me a different kind of purpose, it got me out of the house and, of course, it contributed to our financial bottom line. I still wasn’t sure if outside employment was the answer, but decided to check out the opportunities anyway.
Recently, as I was perusing the jobs on Craigslist, I found a posting that sounded perfect for both my qualifications and lifestyle. Part-time office manager position for a local law firm. So, without telling anyone (even my husband) I forwarded a cover letter and my resume.
As luck would have it (or divine intervention), I received an e-mail an hour later from this company to set up a phone interview the very next day. Still not sure if this was what I wanted, I decided to be bold and ask for a higher hourly wage, and a week of paid vacation. Knowing that this was not usual for a part-time position, I was afraid this might sabotage my chances for getting this job, but decided it was what I wanted. By being honest up front so as not to waste their time, it actually ended up being the best decision I could have made.
My requests were fine with them, and a date was set for a live interview. The interview went well, and after references were checked, I was offered the position.
I accepted and I start on November 17th. I believe things happen for a reason, and the timing on this was perfect. This is a 3-day a week, 6 hours a day job, leaving me plenty of time (and money) to still do the things I wanted to do as a ‘retiree’.
November 6, 2015 By
I celebrated my birthday yesterday with a quiet day spent with my husband. He took the day off to be with me (because he’s awesome like that!), and it was spent browsing some stores, eating lunch out and just relaxing. At about 2:45 pm, I happened to look at the clock and my first thought (and I have no idea why) was that my kids would be home from school soon. Um, no, Sharon, they won’t.
I miss them. I miss how it used to be. I miss being a Mom on a daily basis.
My birthday seemed to be a day to remind me (very poignantly I might add) that things are different. Even though my kids are where they should be — college, raising families of their own, etc. , it still left an empty feeling inside me.
As luck would have it, I came across this You Tuber’s channel and this particular vlog post about a series on stages of life. It couldn’t have come at a better time, really. She reminded me that I have options for my future that
could will be just as good as the time I raised my children.
So, thanks TeriGigi for the reminder. I’m not sure exactly what the next stage will look like, but I’m looking forward to it now.
November 1, 2015 By
It’s November 1st, and I’ve been thinking a lot about why this month doesn’t get the lovin it deserves. It seems that once Halloween is over, Christmas begins. Wreaths go up at every shopping center, holiday music starts piping through all of the stores, and everyone scrambles to make their Black Friday shopping plans.
Truth be told, I fell into this trap as well. I started my Christmas shopping with the hopes of being completely done by December 1st. I watched a couple of Hallmark Christmas movies.
Then it hit me. What about November? Thanksgiving??? Heck, my birthday????
I decided that I want to honor the month of November, as it should be honored. So…. here is my new November plan.
November’s Bucket List
Celebrate my birthday!
Walk the trail at Burke Lake
Honor our Veterans!
Make pumpkin bread and muffins
Brew hot apple cider on the stovetop
Create a November gratitude journal and fill it daily!
Try a pumpkin spiced latte
Plan out my Thanksgiving Menu
Make candy apples
This bucket list should keep me out of the shopping malls and enjoying the month of November as it should be enjoyed.
What do you do in November? Do you have your own bucket list? Please share!
October 31, 2015 By
I started using the program EveryDollar by Dave Ramsey and I have to say I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it! I still wish I could utilize it from my phone, but I can hold onto receipts long enough to enter when I get home. I might even stay UNDER budget for November. We’ll see. Anyone else using this program?
And, in case you couldn’t figure it out from my posts, I’m still a ‘work in progress’ as far as budgeting my money. Over the course of many years, life has changed as well as situations. College x 2 should not have come as a surprise to me, but losing my part-time job did. So, it will take a little bit of time to catch up and get this thing called budgeting to work.
Mentioning that I went over budget this month stirred up a host of different comments. For the most part, I had some great insights from comments that were constructive and helpful.
For instance, I received a comment through my e-mail, that I absolutely LOVED, and I wanted to share with you. I was so honored that this person took the time to write to me.
re: I have already used the paper and pencil method but it is tedious.
– I do this. Well, at least a version of this. I created a spreadsheet that I manually input our spending every couple of days. I do this BECAUSE it is tedious. And because I don’t like it. It helps me think twice before EVERY purchase I make. Even if I put twenty-five cents into a gum ball machine I think about it… I’d still have to record it! I’m better at not spending vs. my husband. Maybe that’s because I do all the paperwork? Or maybe not. But this method works for me…. I don’t like it, it isn’t fun, it isn’t easy… but it does what i need it to do (keep record AND not over spend). I should also mention that I don’t budget. I did when I had no choice at all… but now I’m pretty good at deciding if I really NEED (and sometimes want) things or not. When we have expensive months – on purpose or not – I can see this and then am usually able to figure out when we can cut back a little…. or at least I know to make sure that zero is spent on chocolate bars / snacks or dollar store runs the following month.
Good luck in finding what works for you! In general, I just found that “not buying” has been the best way to go for me. There’s nothing to track if you don’t spend… and if you don’t spend, you’re now saving! Savings that can later be used for trips we’d like to take (and even on trips we really prioritize where we want the money going – which is typically transportation & entertainment… not food or accommodations) or donations to charity we’d like to make!!! (I always feel a MILLION times better in the end when I know I can donate an extra $20 vs. buy a shirt or something that I don’t need…. but that $20 can go a long way in giving someone else something they really do need…. thinking about things this way was one way that really helped curb my spending issues when I had them… that doesn’t mean I don’t spend anything on myself – we do like to travel – but in general, I’m often most happy when I know I’ve made a difference in the life of someone else… so the more I can donate to causes I think make a real difference, the better that makes me feel… even it means I wear the same shirt 2x’s a week, no big loss to me but a big gain to someone else!! :))
However, I also received several nasty comments (which I didn’t approve), and quite frankly had nothing to offer except, well, nastiness. Why? I don’t necessarily need everyone to agree with me, but it’s so much nicer (for everyone) to get constructive feedback. Of course, if you don’t agree at all, and can’t add positivity to the conversation, why bother commenting?
This seems to be happening a lot around the internet, YouTube, etc. and honestly, I just don’t understand.
What do YOU think?